Vengeance, a wild fire!

In as much as we can't avoid dealing with human beings, we can't avoid offences. They must surely come. And how you handle them when they come determines what becomes of you at the end of time.

 If you must maximize the blessedness and resourcefulness of human relationships, then you must be  able to develop the capacity to handle offences.

The first key to handle offences is not to try to stop them

Cruised and Bruised: overcoming relationship heartbreaks

Being Cruised

There comes a time in one's life when the need or rather the desire to go into relationship with the opposite sex becomes obvious. This desire do come s
pontaneously as one come of age. It is deeply rooted in our being.
 This desire is however controlled and influenced by both hormonal forces in us as well as the set of experiences we've been exposed to  as we grow up. The desire comes gradually and maybe fanned into flame uncontrollably if care is not taken.
Of a truth, if you've tasted relationship before, you can tell that it can be so dicey at times. It is full of mirage and surprises.
Many people because of their nature and prevailing circumstances could trust so easily and wholeheartedly and more often than not, they are always taken for granted by people who try to play it smart on them.

EMPATHIC LISTENING IN HUMAN RELATION

Human relation

One of the keys to an effective and productive living is the mastery of human relationships. If you can't handle human relationships well, you cannot handle any other thing in life. You may master inventory/stock management, but not until you master human resource management, you cannot reach the peak.
 To master human relationships, you must acknowledge the fact that every human is created with a sense of uniqueness, self-worth, and self-pride. These we seek and strive to protect in every one of our dealings with people.
Our soul ends up resenting and repelling anybody that seems to predate, eat up or vandalized our feeling of importance and the craving to be appreciated. Because of how much we cherish our own opinion and views about a particular thing, we often desire the other party to listen to us, understand us, affirm us and possibly, subscribe to our own paradigm and ideologies.
We want people to just wear our own eye lenses at times and begin to see things the way we see them. And when they seem not to listen, understand and affirm us in our opinion we become resentful, repulsive and may consequently withdraw from such relationships.
If you don't acknowledge and appropriate this reality in your dealings with people, you can't really maximize relationships to fulfill your dreams.

Managing your Emotions

Managing your emotions

As we live daily and pursue our dreams, we are always involved in one form of relationship or the other.  It could be marital, business, friendship or othe
rwise.
Of course, you know that building sustainable relationship involves a lot of investment especially emotions and time.
By virtue of what and how much we invest in those relationships, we do expect something in return even when we seem not to be aware or conscious of it. Deep within our inner being, it is there.
We do expect to be treated with respect, dignity, love, and understanding. We expect to be listened to, understood and sometimes, obeyed and a submitted. At times, we expect to have our way on issues when there are conflicts of opinions and interests.
Indeed, every human being has self-pride. In lieu of this, we expect to be honored and cell rated when and where it matters. We do desire some sincere compliments and appreciation whenever we make a good point. At other times, we desire unreserved apologies from people who wronged us.

Handling Disappointments in Relationships

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We go into different relationships from time to time for one purpose or the other. Depending on what and who is involved in the relationship and the circumstances surrounding it, we are exposed to different kinds of experiences both the ones we anticipated and the ones we do not. These experiences impact us differently too.

True, establishing and maintaining good relationships involves huge investments especially the investment of time and emotions aside many other things. At times, you may put in so much into the relationship expecting much from it, but all you could get is pains, disappointment, heartbreak, betrayals even from those you trusted with the whole of your heart. It may become difficult to trust and open your heart to people as a result. This is a foundational premise for the "TRUST - NOBODY" paradigm. But the question is,