APC....Change!

I think I got you there...lols! 

You must have thought I'm talking about the "The All Progressives Congress" in Nigeria, but not at all.

Having come a long way in life, something really has to change and change for the better and the following are keys to birth a change:

1.  A...Attitude: For everything you are doing, there are many people out

Vengeance, a wild fire!

In as much as we can't avoid dealing with human beings, we can't avoid offences. They must surely come. And how you handle them when they come determines what becomes of you at the end of time.

 If you must maximize the blessedness and resourcefulness of human relationships, then you must be  able to develop the capacity to handle offences.

The first key to handle offences is not to try to stop them

MINORITY IS NOT INFERIORITY

Everyman was created in God’s image and likeness with a touch of uniqueness and blessed with diverse potentials. Nobody was created inferior by God. Every man is equal before God having equal opportunities although with varying abilities according to the divine assignment a man is born to accomplish on earth.

Man was made a king to reign on earth (Rev 5:10). A man’s kingdom however (your area of calling) may vary from the next man’s in terms of size and resoures. But no matter the size and location of a man’s kingdom, he is not in any way inferior to anybody.
What commands respect to a king primarily is not the size of his kingdom but the crown upon his head. God has crowned us kings hence nobody should be looked down upon because of prevailing circumstances.

No man is born empty. Everyman carries enviable potentials and abilities inherent in him. Everyman carries a seed of greatness in him. The worth o f a man is not measured by his present circumstances or fate but by the beauty of the hidden treasures in him. A man ought not to be judged by where and when he was born or who gave birth to him but by what he was born with. Some were born in obscurity yet carries the key to the security of their nation.

We are in a society where people are rated by their colour, family background and material worth but this is faulty. No man is useless since everyman carries useful potentials in him.
In life, it is not your genetics (height, color etc) that counts but your genesis- where you can came from. You came from God. Again, it is not who gave birth to a man that counts or where he was born,but what he was born with - his innate potentials.


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Do not look down on yourself!
In life, your opinion and confession about yourself goes a long way in influencing your destiny. A positive (and stable) opinion about yourself attracts positive results. Your life begins to sink when you think that you stink because of tattered life has made you look like. So long your dreams are not shattered yet,you still have a place in destiny.

At times situations of life may make you doubt your chances of manifesting destiny. But the fact still remains “YOU ARE THE BEST OF YOUR KIND! Do not allow the venom of people’s negative opinions about you poison your self esteem. And do not be embittered against them either. They are entitled to their opinions. Just discover and be who you are and owe no man apology.

Do not look down on people
There is no justifiable reason to look down on people. Whenever you look down on somebody, be reminded that you are looking down on God indirectly because that person is God’s image. Dare to love and respect people for who they are and not who you want them to be.If you could mock people because of a clause on them,be reminded that you also have at least one of those clauses on you. So,be humble and learn to respect people irrespective of prevailing circumstances.

Some minors that did major things
History  has countless number of people who though were despised by men in one area or the other because of prevailing circumstances, but their contribution to humanity is resounding and un-ignorable.

Jephthah was despised by his brethren but became their hero at the end (Judges 11) . It is not how, where, when you were born and who gave birth to you that matters but what you are born with. Gideon (Judges 6) who felt limited and incapable of delivering his nation from their enemies because of his family background hid himself behind the winepress. But he ended up defeating the 55 thousand soldiers of the Midianite with just 300 soldiers.

The “majority” are not always people born into the biggest families but those that have made the biggest contribution to humanity. Men like Thomas Edison, Andrew Carnegie, Abraham Lincoln etc. all had a humble beginning but the impact of these men is immeasurable.

Your predicament is not an excuse for failure. Demosthenes was a stammerer   yet became the greatest orator of ancient world. Julius Caesar was an epileptic. Helen Keller was blind; Homer Beethoven was deaf; Charles Dickens was lame; so was Handel. Plato was a hunchback yet all of them have their names bodly and indelibly written in the sand of history through the unmatched fits of victories they won for humanity. In fact,  THERE IS NO EXCUSE FOR FAILURE!
Irrespective of your condition, there is still something you can do for humanity. Know that even the smallest potential when discovered and put to work subdues even the biggest obstacle.


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Some secrets of these “Great minors”

While some people lose their chances of success to prevailing circumstances, others use their conditions  as a motivation to attain excellence.

1. Vision: Men of vision has always made the world better.  Your usefulness in life is tied to your contribution to humanity.  When you discover what  you are  born to do irrespective of where and how you were born and fulfil it using all you ‘ve got, you inevitably become a majority that the whole world will identify with. Men may look down on you because of your foundation but will always look up to you for the fruit of your vision.

2. Information: “What ye know, the same do I know also. I am not inferior unto you” (Job 13:2).

Inferiority complex is always birthed in ignorance – ignorance of who you are. Job was a man that suffered unquantifiable afflictions but never felt worthless before his fellows who often came around to practically mock him because he knows what they know. It is what you know that others don’t know that places you ahead of them. Anybody that is better than you simply knows and does something you don’t know and do yet. You will always be as far ahead or behind others the extent you know.

One of the greatest limitations in life is ignorance of the things you already have. Having something without knowing it is suicidal and self shortchanging.

God has given you all you need to succeed (Eph 1:3, 2Pet 1:3) irrespective of your background but ignorance may keep them under the veil forever.

When you are informed, you will be transformed. When you are transformed, you will be in-form to reform the form of your world. But when you are not informed, you will be conformed to the form of your world and consequently be deformed. And when you are deformed, you cannot perform.

3. Courage: it takes courage to come out of your comfort zone ingnoring all shame and bitterness generated by prevailing circumstances to pursue excellence. Without courage, you cannot make any adventure. Fear sees obstacles and say “it’s a no go area”. But courage sees even bigger obstacles and say “it’s a now go area”.

Finally the life of Christ is the life of endless possibilities (Luke 1:37). And if living the great life you are destined to live is possible, then what is the essence of living less? SHALOM!

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Go back to the pitch: keys for overcoming life failures

   

 Life can be very funny and unpredictable at times. There are times it may look very promising getting signals you are close to landing just to spend years more still trying to find your feet.
There are times, the more you look, the less it seems you see. The faster you think you run, the slower you go.
 At some points, you may take a sigh of relief hoping the battle is over just to be faced headlong with another hard nut to crack.

It can be very humiliating at times having done all to stand, you still find yourself rolling on the ground being blown off your feet by that small "strange wind" you couldn't resist.
You started the race on a brighter note hoping for things to get better with time and over time just for things to turn out into what you don't understand anymore, and you are wondering what's going on. Friends are now foes, and it seems hell is yelling at you....the catalog of experience continues and you may add yours. But no matter how bad your experiences might have been, don't quit the game.
Don't be overwhelmed by how things have been and lose consciousness of how better things can be. No matter the number of goals you conceded in the first half of the game- the mistakes you've made, still don't give up and quit. You may leave the pitch on halftime but don't remain in the dressing room. Go back to the pitch and ensure you play and win the game.

Cruised and Bruised: overcoming relationship heartbreaks

Being Cruised

There comes a time in one's life when the need or rather the desire to go into relationship with the opposite sex becomes obvious. This desire do come s
pontaneously as one come of age. It is deeply rooted in our being.
 This desire is however controlled and influenced by both hormonal forces in us as well as the set of experiences we've been exposed to  as we grow up. The desire comes gradually and maybe fanned into flame uncontrollably if care is not taken.
Of a truth, if you've tasted relationship before, you can tell that it can be so dicey at times. It is full of mirage and surprises.
Many people because of their nature and prevailing circumstances could trust so easily and wholeheartedly and more often than not, they are always taken for granted by people who try to play it smart on them.

Dad and Mum killed me: a word for Parents and children.

Child in a confused state

We have come to a stage where the tension of growing up is on the increase. You look around and you see pressure everywhere. People battling with one frustration or the other.
Nothing can be as frustrating as finding yourself in the midst of stormy wind all blowing against you and those who are supposed to rescue you are not there for you,perhaps, battling with their own storms too.
You see, each time I look at the younger generation, my heart bleeds. Seeing those in whose hands the future lies dealing with life with slacked and weakened hands leaves me with so much fear. Supposing it is just their hands that are weakened, it would have been better. Their hearts and heads are also weak.
You see youth already in their teens, twenties and thirties still looking confused and highly incapacitated. No sense of direction. Moral decadence among other social vices  is gaining an alarming proportion.
 A lot of them don't even know what they want in life and some that seem to know don't know how to go about pursuing and achieving them. It's really worrisome.
While we are still trying to curb a particular menace in the society, another shows up and many have given up in so many ways. Parents who expected so much from their children feeling so disappointed, and children too,feel disappointed in d their parents who couldn't live up to expectation.

SUCCESS VISA: walking/working your way to success

Nobody is born a success or a failure, we all live to be either successful or as a failure depending on how we lived our lives. Everybody is born with all needed potentials to live a fulfilled life but how much of these potentials we discover and maximized determines how successful and fulfilled we become.
Success and failure are not functions of our background in the real sense, but how well we've discovered and developed ourselves to maximize opportunities for growth around us.
While some are busy fighting for American Visa and Visas to other foreign countries to go in search of greener pastures as an escape from the circumstances that seem not to be favorable to them where they have been,, others are busy making fortunes out of those same circumstances in the same land.
Well, it is not out of place to travel abroad in search of a better life, but it will be highly self-misleading and shortchanging if you go abroad in search of what you have onboard in your present abode.
If by all standard your vision is not workable where you are owing to the scarcity of resources both human and non-human and which cannot be sourced where you are. And if your supposed target audience (the people who are to benefit from your vision) are not around you, then launching out becomes rational.

EMPATHIC LISTENING IN HUMAN RELATION

Human relation

One of the keys to an effective and productive living is the mastery of human relationships. If you can't handle human relationships well, you cannot handle any other thing in life. You may master inventory/stock management, but not until you master human resource management, you cannot reach the peak.
 To master human relationships, you must acknowledge the fact that every human is created with a sense of uniqueness, self-worth, and self-pride. These we seek and strive to protect in every one of our dealings with people.
Our soul ends up resenting and repelling anybody that seems to predate, eat up or vandalized our feeling of importance and the craving to be appreciated. Because of how much we cherish our own opinion and views about a particular thing, we often desire the other party to listen to us, understand us, affirm us and possibly, subscribe to our own paradigm and ideologies.
We want people to just wear our own eye lenses at times and begin to see things the way we see them. And when they seem not to listen, understand and affirm us in our opinion we become resentful, repulsive and may consequently withdraw from such relationships.
If you don't acknowledge and appropriate this reality in your dealings with people, you can't really maximize relationships to fulfill your dreams.

The Blessings and Burden of Africa: celebrating our heritage

AFRICAN CULTURE

 Please permit me to say that I'm very proud to be an African. It's really been a great privilege being a man of colour.
Despite all that has been said about Africa either in mockery or consolation; condemnation or commendation, I have no regret ever being an African. I celebrate my continent - The GREAT AFRICA. I enjoyed the treasures in our culture and heritage, from the language to the traditions to every aspect of our indigenous ways of life. You can't find such treasures elsewhere in the world.

AFRICA IN TIME PAST

Indeed, Africa has been a great Continent; a great People blessed with Great potentials. We have one of the richest cultures in the world.
Before the advent of colonialism, Africa has been. We've always survived on our own. For instance

Managing your Emotions

Managing your emotions

As we live daily and pursue our dreams, we are always involved in one form of relationship or the other.  It could be marital, business, friendship or othe
rwise.
Of course, you know that building sustainable relationship involves a lot of investment especially emotions and time.
By virtue of what and how much we invest in those relationships, we do expect something in return even when we seem not to be aware or conscious of it. Deep within our inner being, it is there.
We do expect to be treated with respect, dignity, love, and understanding. We expect to be listened to, understood and sometimes, obeyed and a submitted. At times, we expect to have our way on issues when there are conflicts of opinions and interests.
Indeed, every human being has self-pride. In lieu of this, we expect to be honored and cell rated when and where it matters. We do desire some sincere compliments and appreciation whenever we make a good point. At other times, we desire unreserved apologies from people who wronged us.

Nigeria after Independence: which way my people

Nigeria, Oh Nigeria! I love my fatherland. What a land so blessed diversely.
Over the years, Nigeria has really come a long way. We've been through different types of circumstances, yet, we are still together. We've tasted different types of leadership under different atmospheres.
Long ago, we were on our own living the best way we know how to. After some time, we came under colonial rulership that lasted for decades. Having seen all they had to offer us, we agitated for independence which was granted though not without a fight. Since independence, a lot has really unfolded.
Looking back at the years gone by, much has really be done, yet, here we are. We have taken so many steps forward, yet, here we are. Different regimes have come and gone who promised to take us to the place our founding father foresaw, yet, here we are. Different paradigms have been tried in all spheres, still, here we are. But don't you think we need to sit down and ask ourselves some critical questions?
Our founding fathers had to put their lives on the line to fight for independence because they foresaw a greener earth for Nigeria being under our own government. But looking back at the years gone by, what testimony have we got? Is this the future our founding fathers foresaw that motivated them to stake their lives to fight for us to lead ourselves?