Go back to the pitch: keys for overcoming life failures

   

 Life can be very funny and unpredictable at times. There are times it may look very promising getting signals you are close to landing just to spend years more still trying to find your feet.
There are times, the more you look, the less it seems you see. The faster you think you run, the slower you go.
 At some points, you may take a sigh of relief hoping the battle is over just to be faced headlong with another hard nut to crack.

It can be very humiliating at times having done all to stand, you still find yourself rolling on the ground being blown off your feet by that small "strange wind" you couldn't resist.
You started the race on a brighter note hoping for things to get better with time and over time just for things to turn out into what you don't understand anymore, and you are wondering what's going on. Friends are now foes, and it seems hell is yelling at you....the catalog of experience continues and you may add yours. But no matter how bad your experiences might have been, don't quit the game.
Don't be overwhelmed by how things have been and lose consciousness of how better things can be. No matter the number of goals you conceded in the first half of the game- the mistakes you've made, still don't give up and quit. You may leave the pitch on halftime but don't remain in the dressing room. Go back to the pitch and ensure you play and win the game.

Cruised and Bruised: overcoming relationship heartbreaks

Being Cruised

There comes a time in one's life when the need or rather the desire to go into relationship with the opposite sex becomes obvious. This desire do come s
pontaneously as one come of age. It is deeply rooted in our being.
 This desire is however controlled and influenced by both hormonal forces in us as well as the set of experiences we've been exposed to  as we grow up. The desire comes gradually and maybe fanned into flame uncontrollably if care is not taken.
Of a truth, if you've tasted relationship before, you can tell that it can be so dicey at times. It is full of mirage and surprises.
Many people because of their nature and prevailing circumstances could trust so easily and wholeheartedly and more often than not, they are always taken for granted by people who try to play it smart on them.

Dad and Mum killed me: a word for Parents and children.

Child in a confused state

We have come to a stage where the tension of growing up is on the increase. You look around and you see pressure everywhere. People battling with one frustration or the other.
Nothing can be as frustrating as finding yourself in the midst of stormy wind all blowing against you and those who are supposed to rescue you are not there for you,perhaps, battling with their own storms too.
You see, each time I look at the younger generation, my heart bleeds. Seeing those in whose hands the future lies dealing with life with slacked and weakened hands leaves me with so much fear. Supposing it is just their hands that are weakened, it would have been better. Their hearts and heads are also weak.
You see youth already in their teens, twenties and thirties still looking confused and highly incapacitated. No sense of direction. Moral decadence among other social vices  is gaining an alarming proportion.
 A lot of them don't even know what they want in life and some that seem to know don't know how to go about pursuing and achieving them. It's really worrisome.
While we are still trying to curb a particular menace in the society, another shows up and many have given up in so many ways. Parents who expected so much from their children feeling so disappointed, and children too,feel disappointed in d their parents who couldn't live up to expectation.

SUCCESS VISA: walking/working your way to success

Nobody is born a success or a failure, we all live to be either successful or as a failure depending on how we lived our lives. Everybody is born with all needed potentials to live a fulfilled life but how much of these potentials we discover and maximized determines how successful and fulfilled we become.
Success and failure are not functions of our background in the real sense, but how well we've discovered and developed ourselves to maximize opportunities for growth around us.
While some are busy fighting for American Visa and Visas to other foreign countries to go in search of greener pastures as an escape from the circumstances that seem not to be favorable to them where they have been,, others are busy making fortunes out of those same circumstances in the same land.
Well, it is not out of place to travel abroad in search of a better life, but it will be highly self-misleading and shortchanging if you go abroad in search of what you have onboard in your present abode.
If by all standard your vision is not workable where you are owing to the scarcity of resources both human and non-human and which cannot be sourced where you are. And if your supposed target audience (the people who are to benefit from your vision) are not around you, then launching out becomes rational.

EMPATHIC LISTENING IN HUMAN RELATION

Human relation

One of the keys to an effective and productive living is the mastery of human relationships. If you can't handle human relationships well, you cannot handle any other thing in life. You may master inventory/stock management, but not until you master human resource management, you cannot reach the peak.
 To master human relationships, you must acknowledge the fact that every human is created with a sense of uniqueness, self-worth, and self-pride. These we seek and strive to protect in every one of our dealings with people.
Our soul ends up resenting and repelling anybody that seems to predate, eat up or vandalized our feeling of importance and the craving to be appreciated. Because of how much we cherish our own opinion and views about a particular thing, we often desire the other party to listen to us, understand us, affirm us and possibly, subscribe to our own paradigm and ideologies.
We want people to just wear our own eye lenses at times and begin to see things the way we see them. And when they seem not to listen, understand and affirm us in our opinion we become resentful, repulsive and may consequently withdraw from such relationships.
If you don't acknowledge and appropriate this reality in your dealings with people, you can't really maximize relationships to fulfill your dreams.

The Blessings and Burden of Africa: celebrating our heritage

AFRICAN CULTURE

 Please permit me to say that I'm very proud to be an African. It's really been a great privilege being a man of colour.
Despite all that has been said about Africa either in mockery or consolation; condemnation or commendation, I have no regret ever being an African. I celebrate my continent - The GREAT AFRICA. I enjoyed the treasures in our culture and heritage, from the language to the traditions to every aspect of our indigenous ways of life. You can't find such treasures elsewhere in the world.

AFRICA IN TIME PAST

Indeed, Africa has been a great Continent; a great People blessed with Great potentials. We have one of the richest cultures in the world.
Before the advent of colonialism, Africa has been. We've always survived on our own. For instance

Managing your Emotions

Managing your emotions

As we live daily and pursue our dreams, we are always involved in one form of relationship or the other.  It could be marital, business, friendship or othe
rwise.
Of course, you know that building sustainable relationship involves a lot of investment especially emotions and time.
By virtue of what and how much we invest in those relationships, we do expect something in return even when we seem not to be aware or conscious of it. Deep within our inner being, it is there.
We do expect to be treated with respect, dignity, love, and understanding. We expect to be listened to, understood and sometimes, obeyed and a submitted. At times, we expect to have our way on issues when there are conflicts of opinions and interests.
Indeed, every human being has self-pride. In lieu of this, we expect to be honored and cell rated when and where it matters. We do desire some sincere compliments and appreciation whenever we make a good point. At other times, we desire unreserved apologies from people who wronged us.

Nigeria after Independence: which way my people

Nigeria, Oh Nigeria! I love my fatherland. What a land so blessed diversely.
Over the years, Nigeria has really come a long way. We've been through different types of circumstances, yet, we are still together. We've tasted different types of leadership under different atmospheres.
Long ago, we were on our own living the best way we know how to. After some time, we came under colonial rulership that lasted for decades. Having seen all they had to offer us, we agitated for independence which was granted though not without a fight. Since independence, a lot has really unfolded.
Looking back at the years gone by, much has really be done, yet, here we are. We have taken so many steps forward, yet, here we are. Different regimes have come and gone who promised to take us to the place our founding father foresaw, yet, here we are. Different paradigms have been tried in all spheres, still, here we are. But don't you think we need to sit down and ask ourselves some critical questions?
Our founding fathers had to put their lives on the line to fight for independence because they foresaw a greener earth for Nigeria being under our own government. But looking back at the years gone by, what testimony have we got? Is this the future our founding fathers foresaw that motivated them to stake their lives to fight for us to lead ourselves?

Handling Disappointments in Relationships

love

We go into different relationships from time to time for one purpose or the other. Depending on what and who is involved in the relationship and the circumstances surrounding it, we are exposed to different kinds of experiences both the ones we anticipated and the ones we do not. These experiences impact us differently too.

True, establishing and maintaining good relationships involves huge investments especially the investment of time and emotions aside many other things. At times, you may put in so much into the relationship expecting much from it, but all you could get is pains, disappointment, heartbreak, betrayals even from those you trusted with the whole of your heart. It may become difficult to trust and open your heart to people as a result. This is a foundational premise for the "TRUST - NOBODY" paradigm. But the question is,

Legacy: An X-ray of Nelson Mandela's life

Nelson Mandela

"I have fought against White domination, and I have fought against Black domination. I have cherished the idea of a democratic and free society in which all persons live together in harmony and with equal opportunities. It is an idea which I hope to live for and achieve. But if need be, it is an idea in which I'm prepared to die"

These were the words of one of the most beautiful souls that ever lived on planet earth; an anti-apartheid leader and a world revolutionist, Nelson Mandela which he declared fearlessly and in the spirit of faith and national patriotism before the court where he was undergoing trials in 1966.

Indeed, the worth of a man in neither in his materialistic possessions nor his number of days on earth, but in his contribution to the betterment of humanity. It is your level of contribution to better the lot of humanity that shows you are really great or not. Some crave for opportunities and fortunes whose arrows of benefits points to themselves, always being driven to satisfy personal interests even if at the expense of others.

YOU NEED PEOPLE (Part 2)

....continued from You need People!(Part 1)

WHY YOU NEED PEOPLE:

1.     No one knows it all: In life, you may know all, but one. We learn in parts and we know in parts. No human is all - knowing. There is no amount of knowledge you have now that somebody, somewhere didn't contribute to somehow. No matter how much you know, somebody still need to show you the way in some areas. The feeling that you know all is an indication that you are yet to learn. Learning extra than the ordinary is the secret of becoming extraordinary in life.

2.     You can't see your back: No matter how far you can see down the road, you can't see your back. So, somebody still needs to watch your back for you. You can't be everywhere at the same time and that's why you need somebody to speak for you, fight for you, defend you when you are not there. No matter how sensitive and meticulous you are, there are some details that you may still miss.

3.     You can't do it all: In life, you can do all, but one. If you can do all you need to do to achieve greatness, then you are not doing much.

(To be continued)
Go to: You need People!(Part 3)

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