ON LOVE (Valentine special)

          Love is one of the strongest forces in humankind. It acts both within a person (love for one's self) and outside (love for others). A bond that can be made and can also be broken depending on what constitutes it. The elements of the bond determine the strength of it and this, in turn, determines it's durability. Love itself is a force that can bring both the strong and the weak together into a stable state whereby the weaknesses of the weak is being compensated for by the strength of the strong thus making both parties appear strong. It is a uniting force that can bring different parties that are not "perfect match" into a stable state of harmony. In fact, every relationship that must be durable and fruitful must be founded on love. So, it's absence in relationships always breeds frictions and crisis.

                 LOVE IN HUMAN RELATIONSHIPS

       

Mark Twain Quotes

Mark Twain defines love as "an irresistible desire to be irresistibly desired."
True, part of our human desires is the desire to be desired by others. It is always an uninteresting life experience to be in an environment where nobody pays attention to you. It is this desire to be desired that brings people into relationships and this is why we are social beings. Relationships birthed in the desire for one another are the connecting rods which make one a true partaker of life events. When you are not being genuinely loved by those within your sphere of contact, you feel disconnected from the real essence of life. Observation has shown that you are irresistibly drawn to those who desire you whether for their own good, for your good or for the common good. Even in marriage, whenever the attention and affection of both spouses are turned away from each other, the marriage begins to lose taste.

                                 LOVE IN PRACTICE!

The practice of love is theoretically simple until you come to the reality of making it an attitude and a lifestyle. It comes with a lot of sacrifices and demands. The intricacies involved in understanding what makes love real and true makes it elusive and impracticable at times. The better you understand the concept, the better you are in loving and being lovable.Often, the difficulties experienced in putting love to practice could actually stem from the intention of loving in the first place. And the key is: DO NOT LOVE TO EXPECT, BUT TO RESPECT.The truth is if you love a person because of what you expect from 
him/her, the day he/ she fail to offer that thing probably because he/she don't have it or have too little of it, your love for him/her may begin to wax cold.
You see, there are times we really expect too much from people that they could offer too little and this is often at the bottom of most 
frustrations, disappointments, and heartbreaks suffered in most 
relationships. You have to understand that we are humans with imperfections and weaknesses. No one has it all. So, instead of loving people because of what you expect from them, love them because you respect their revealed personality. Loving people for who they are and not who you are and what you expect from them will save you so many pains that plague most relationships. It will help you to give and invest in people without necessarily expecting a return from them. And this is the essence of love on Valentine.
HAPPY VALENTINE'S DAY!
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